Sara Walker

Deep intimacy often begins with something deceptively simple: actually listening. Not the kind of listening where one ear is on your partner and the other is wondering whether you remembered to defrost the chicken. Active listening means slowing down, giving your partner your full attention, and trying to understand what they are feeling underneath the words. It sounds basic, but in many relationships, it is the difference between “we had a chat” and “I finally felt heard.” A useful habit is...

There are few choices heavier than deciding whether to walk away from someone you’ve loved. You might feel stuck between the familiar comfort of what you’ve built, and the quiet ache that’s been growing for months, or even years. One minute you’re convinced splitting up is the only way forward, the next, you’re terrified you’ll regret letting go of something that could still be fixed. It’s easy to make this decision out of anger, loneliness, or fear, or to stay simply because change feels too...

Understanding Love Many people use the phrases “I am in love with you” and “I love you” as if they mean exactly the same thing. In reality however these two experiences are quite different. Understanding the distinction can be one of the most important steps in building a healthy and lasting relationship. While being in love is often the spark that brings two people together, loving someone is what helps that relationship survive, grow and deepen over time. Below we explore the 15 key...